Sunday, March 29, 2009

Essential Baby Gear: Great Husband

I’ve pretty much known from the beginning that I scored in the husband department, but having a kid has confirmed it. My husband is already a great dad. He’s practically a natural. He was a little slow on diaper changes at first, probably because he has never experienced explosive poop or actually getting peed on. I mean, he left the baby’s bare butt on the expensive changing table cover. (That’s for looks, dude- use the cheap Target disposable liner on top. Or at least put a diaper under his heinie.)
But let’s get back to all the stuff that he does right.
He’s been forcing me to sleep. That has probably saved us at least 5 emotional breakdowns from me because I’m not exhausted.
He holds the kid.
He’s a good swaddler.
He goes to the store to buy stuff that we need.
He brought me whatever I needed when my butt was sore.
When I start crying because I don’t totally feel physically better yet, and am tired of needing help and not being able to move around as much as I want, he calms me down really kindly.

Above all he has been a good influence on me. He’ll put the baby in the Pack and Play, turn on our nanny cam, then go in the next room. I’d never think of doing that- leaving the baby in the next room- but it’s a rational and healthy thing to do. I’d be holding the kid on my chest the whole time, but I’m slothful enough as it is. It’s good for me to go shower or put up a blog post. Or say, eat breakfast. Or do some pelvic floor exercises and pelvic tilts to start getting my core back into shape.
I think my husband has already made me a more relaxed parent, because I tend toward paranoid stress bucket. I think this is why I’m able to put in my earplugs and sleep at night, rather than listening for every little noise. Babies can make a lot of damn noise in their sleep.

Oh my husband has also been making me laugh a lot.
A couple days ago, I’d do this thing where I’d act like a total bitch for no reason, and rather than responding meanly back to me, he’d say something totally funny and make me laugh while at the same time making me realize I’m acting insane.  Problem solved.

I am NOT happy my husband goes back to work tomorrow, but I’m lucky to have had him here as long as I did- a whole week. My mom comes up tomorrow, so that should make the transition easier.

PS- what scares the crap out of me is how randomly I met my husband- the fact that I could have easily not met him is too terrifying to consider. Because I don't believe in fate- that's just something that makes people feel better about how random the universe is.

8 comments:

Unknown said...

And all the air n the room you are in have a chance to suddenly find themselves in one cornet of the room, suffocating you...
It does not happen, but that is the random theory and there is awful math to back it up!
I have stopped believing in chance after that P-chem lecture.

Mr. Z said...

The biggest question I have is this: What game is he playing on the iPhone? :)

Julie said...

Awww hugs to C for being awesome! I hope K does as well :)

Anonymous said...

Okay... YES, you did definitely score in the husband department! Girlfriend, I am seriously jealous! God bless you and him and that little baby boy! Motherhood will be a breeze with that kinda support!

Manager Mom said...

Such a sweet post. And keep the pictures coming!

irenesbooks said...

You are lucky indeed! Keep the pics coming too!

Kevin McKeever said...

See, we're not all Ray Romano type daddys.

Anonymous said...

You are so lucky to have a Mr. Mom! He's a keeper. I believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason, so of course you were going to meet and marry your hubby!

Remember your hormones are doing crazy things right now so try to get as much sleep as you can and treasure every moment with Baby ST!

I wish we could see him in person!

Wendy